Updated: Aug 20
“When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things.”– Joe Namath
Have you ever heard the saying, “Confidence is key”? Well, it’s actually true! Not only is it super-important to have for yourself, but it’s also crucial for a happy life!
Confidence is how you see and feel about yourself and your worth. It's seeing yourself and being at peace with what you see, flaws and all.
It shapes your self-image and how you act around others. Self-confidence is crucial to being your best self and determines a lot of things in your life including your social life, work-life, and more.
For example, a confident person is more likely to be successful in making friends, than someone who is too self-conscious to speak to anyone. It's very similar in a work environment. Showing confidence is more likely to get you hired in an interview or to get you that promotion!
Before we go into the rest of this post, let's get clear on what confidence IS NOT.
· Thinking You're Better Than Everyone Else
· Putting Others Down
· Being Overbearing, Vain, or Egotistical
“Successful people often exude confidence – it’s obvious that they believe in themselves and what they’re doing. It isn’t their success that makes them confident, however. The confidence was there first.”– Travis Bradberry
The Benefits of Being Confident:
Work and friends aren’t the only reasons why confidence is important. Confidence is generally one of the main elements of a happy life.
Here are some other benefits of boosting your confidence:
· It’s attractive to other people.
· More Courage, less fear
· Better Chance of Success
· Motivating yourself
· Better Mental Health
As important as confidence is, many people aren’t confident in who they are and what they can do. Lack of confidence can be due to many things: being bullied, trauma, mental illness, disability, or even someone’s physical appearance or social class can affect someone’s self-confidence. The truth is it varies in everyone that experiences a lack of confidence.
In this post, I’m going to show you some of the unbelievably easy ways you can boost your confidence in order to live a better life!
After reading this, you’ll be able to start doing things right away that will make you feel more confident! Believe me, you’ll see the difference and so will everyone else!
1. Do Things You’re Good At
We’ll start with the most obvious. When you do things your good at, like playing a certain sport or doing a certain activity, you'll automatically feel better about yourself and what you can do.
Doing these things helps you to focus on the positive like you’re strengths and your passions. By focusing on these positives, you will feel a greater sense of self-worth, which will then invoke confidence.
What are you good at? Is there a certain sport or activity that you know you’re a champ in?
For example, something that I like to, that I consider myself good at, is riding my horse. I always get off of the saddle more confident than I got onto it.
2. A Whole Lotta Self-Love
Self-love is loving and accepting yourself for who you truly are, even what you don’t necessarily like. It’s when you put yourself and your needs first when you finally give yourself the unconditional love you deserve.
You can cultivate self-love by:
- Trusting your intuition.
- Quit comparing yourself and your life to other people.
- Speaking to yourself in a kind and loving way.
- Forgiving yourself for your mistakes; past or present.
- Putting yourself first; your health, your emotions, your peace of mind.
- Practicing Self-Care like a healthy diet or quitting a bad habit.
“Tell me, do you give yourself the same love that you so willingly give out? The same love that you desperately crave?”
3. Have a Grateful Heart
Gratitude is one of the many wonders of this life. When you’re grateful, you’re focused on the good things in life instead of the bad, the things you have, instead of the things you want. It teaches you to be positive and to appreciate the simple things in your life and the things you love about yourself.
You can practice gratefulness a few different ways:
Gratefulness Meditation or Prayer
Mindful noticing of the simple beauty in life
Showing your gratitude to others
Practicing gratefulness does more than boost confidence, it brings a sense of joy to your life, especially when practiced in the morning. It’s the perfect way to set the tone for the whole day ahead!
4. Work On It
If you’re self-conscious about something in particular, work on it! The things you’re self-conscious about. That doesn’t mean trying to fit the image of “perfect”. That’s impossible.
If you’re self-conscious about something that you can reasonably work on or change, like getting fit or changing your hair color, (and you can do it without changing who you truly are as a human being) then go for it.
If you can’t, then I suggest you let it go and move on, which brings us to our next way to gain confidence.
5. Let The Small Sh*t Go
This one may not be so easy at first, but once you get the hang of it, it'll be like second nature to you.
When it comes to people's thoughts and opinions of you, it’s something you can’t control. You can either learn the easy way or the hard way, that you won’t be able to make everyone like you. And, that’s okay. I know this sounds cheesy as hell, but it’s true. Yours is the only opinion that matters when it comes to yourself.
So, the next time you find yourself getting your feathers ruffled over the opinions of whomever it may be, your ex, that person you don't like, whatever; just shrug it off, girl. Put it in the rearview window and move on. It’s really not worth your time, your energy, or your emotions.
6. Exploring, Discovering, Learning
You can also boost your confidence by learning a new skill or by picking up a new hobby. Or, by going out and exploring things. Go to new places, meet new people! The world is full of new things and it’s really all yours to discover.
You never know what’s on the next horizon, so go see what the world has waiting for you!
Start with some self-discovery. You'd be surprised at what you can learn about yourself!
7. Drop The Negativity
Especially when it comes from within, negativity can rip confidence to shreds. Negative thoughts are like putting poison into your own water and drinking it. It’s only worsened when negative people further influence them.
Negative people, thoughts, and things; none of these things will ever lead to a happy life. The only logical (and mathematically correct) thing to do is to drop those negatives, in order to make some room for positives in your life.
I don’t know if that’s actually how integers work, I was never the best at math.
However, I do know that when you remove the negatives from your life, not only will things look a hell of a lot brighter, more positive things and people will come your way. I know it can be hard, but it’s well worth the effort.
Oh, by the way…
Dropping negative people doesn’t always mean that you have to cut them out of your life forever. If it’s better for your mental health not to have a certain “negative Nancy” around all the time, then that’s for your own self-care. I support you in that decision.
But, if you're still going to communicate with this person, set the boundary that you’re not into their negativity anymore. If they can’t respect your boundaries, they don’t deserve your friendship. It's that simple, darlin'.
8. Change Your View
When I say “view”, I don’t mean that you need to move to a new city or go somewhere else. It simply means to change your perspective on life.
You need to:
· Have a more optimistic view on life and other people.
· Speak positively to yourself, with your thoughts, and to others. Don’t be a negative Nancy.
· Be kind to others. Don’t just speak positively to them, be genuinely kind to other people. Kindness goes a long way in the world, just as far as confidence.
Take Baby Steps
These are big steps and will take a long time to fully take place in your life. Don’t let this discourage you, it’s well worth the wait.
Who knows? The wait may not even be that long! You could uncover a whole sense of newfound confidence next week, for all I know.
See? It’s nice to think optimistically, isn’t it?
But, the point here is to do this all in baby steps. Doing this in small, approachable steps will better your chances of making it all stick for good!
So, how will you start your journey to be more confident? Let me know in the comments!
Don’t forget to share with your friends to help them boost their confidence too! We all deserve to be our best selves and live our lives to the fullest!
Until next time, xoxo