Self Discovery: What Is It and Why Is It So Important?

Updated: Aug 4

I am not a therapist or mental health professional. My posts come from my experiences only. If you are struggling with mental health, call your doctor to get set up with a licensed mental health professional.

Self Discovery is defined by finding yourself or defining who you are. Not your name or where you come from, but who you are true, on the inside.

You change multiple times throughout the course of your life, which may lead to losing touch with your sense of self. Your sense of self is who you truly are. It influences the way we think, feel, and do things.

Struggling with Mental Illness is also a common reason for losing your sense of self. When you're not in your true frame of mind, it can lead to damaging effects on your self-esteem and sense of self.

When you lose your sense of self, everything else is affected as well. Lacking a sense of self means you're more likely to be self-conscious, lacking confidence. The way you carry yourself changes, as well as your thought process, emotional health, and the way you act towards yourself and others. Your whole perspective on life changes.

I know how you're because I've been exactly where you are. I was lost, had no confidence, and was feeling really hopeless. I had no real direction in life, which made it harder for me to discover the right path for me.

I was more lost than I was watching the series LOST.

LUCKILY, after a few trials and errors, I FINALLY got it! It just suddenly clicked, after months of trying to find ways to find my sense of self again. It wasn't easy, it didn't happen overnight, but I can totally say that my Self-Discovery journey was WORTH IT!

You see, finding yourself doesn't have to mean dropping everything to go backpacking across the world, which is what everyone seems to do after high school to "find themselves". Do you know what they find? A lot of debt.

All you need to do in order to start your Self Discovery Journey is observe, ask yourself the right questions, and always reflect on what you've learned.

If you follow these tips, you'll be on the right path to Self Discovery! Enjoy Exploring the Wonders of You! You won't regret it!

1. Define Your Core Values:

This was the first thing I did when I actually started my Self, Discovery Journey. I sat down and listed out my core values. I asked myself:

  • What do I truly believe in?

  • What do I really stand for?

  • What's important to me?

I suggest asking yourself the same questions to define your core values. Do you believe in loyalty and honesty? Are happiness and abundance important to you? Ask yourself those 3 questions to start, and work from there.


This one just might be the most important thing that I did. I recorded my daily thoughts, events, feelings, and other stuff. It helped me clear the brain fog and focus on what I wanted to do, which was find myself.

Journalling your thoughts on events or daily thoughts, or anything, really, can greatly impact your self-discovery journey. It also helps to reflect on what you've learned every day. Even if you don't think of anything at first, you will. Trust me.

To learn more about why you should be journaling, read my post 4 Reasons Why You Should Be Journalling here

I also have a FREE Printable full of Journal Prompts for Self Discovery, which you can get here

3. Meditate and Be Mindful:

We all know now, that meditation isn't just sitting cross-legged repeating "Ohhhmmmm" with chimes in the background. Meditation has become quite mainstream across the world today, even elementary schools have implemented meditation time for children.

Meditation is beneficial for anyone who needs to just take a breather. That's literally all it is. Sit there, focus on one thing, most commonly breathing, and meditate on that for 5 or 10 minutes.

Mindfulness is no different. It's simply just focusing on the one thing that you're doing, while you're doing it. Meditation is also known to be extremely helpful in opening up your intuition, which can also be silenced when you lose your sense of self.

4. See Obstacles as Challenges, Rather Than Problems:

An obstacle doesn't have to be a problem if you see it as a challenge. Instead of stopping at a jump, a horse simply soars over it. That's what you need to do, find a way to soar over that jump!

This tip is great for any kind of personal growth, but when you're trying to find yourself, it helps get that tenacity into putting the effort into actually discovering yourself all over again.

5. Ask Someone You Trust:

Don't be afraid to ask someone you trust (and that knows you really well) to give you some attributes of what they think of you. This DOES NOT MEAN that this is exactly who you are. It just helps to have a direction, if you can't find one yourself.

You really shouldn't pay any mind to what people think about you, but when it's the people you love, you know they'll help you in your journey. Just ask.

6. Observe and Learn:

"You learn something new, every day." We've all said or at least heard it before. But it's true. We DO learn new things every day!

Personally, I love to learn, so I enjoy taking the time to learn more about, well, everything. Especially, when it comes to animals, but that's a story for another day.

For the next few days, really try observing your life.

  • What do you spend most of your time doing?

  • Do you like it? Would you rather be doing something else?

  • What do you daydream about?

When it comes to learning, ask yourself, "What did I learn today?" at the end of every day. Journal and reflect on it. When this becomes a habit, you'll be more self-aware and from there, you'll be able to grow.

There you have it, folks! Now you know what Self Discovery is, why you need it, and how to start your journey to get there. How will you Find Yourself?

How Will You Start Your Self Discovery Journey Today? Let me know in the comments! Don't forget to like and share with your friends!

Until Next Time! xoxo

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