Updated: Aug 20
*Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. This blog post does not as medical advice or diagnosis. For any of your mental health concerns, please talk to your doctor.*
“Too loud, too emotional, too much.”
As someone who has struggled with Borderline Personality Disorder, these are comments I’ve heard frequently. Living in a hurricane of your own thoughts and feelings can be a living hell. It hurts even more when no one seems to “get it.”
There are many misunderstandings about people with Borderline Personality Disorder. While it hurts every now and again, I always remember that BPD isn’t as commonly experienced as Anxiety or Depression, therefore it’s not as commonly spoken about either.
To help #EndTheStigma, I’ve decided to open up about my own experiences living with BPD and what I’ve done to help recover on my journey to a happy, healthy life.
This is the first of many posts about living with Borderline Personality Disorder that I will write to help others living with BPD find encouragement and understanding. After all, everyone just wants to be accepted and understood!
What is BPD, anyway?
Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD) is a mood disorder identified by intense emotions, frequent mood swings, and an intense fear of abandonment, which leads to unstable relationships and a foggy sense of self.
Essentially, it's like living in a constant state of war with your own mind and heart.
What Are The Symptoms of BPD?
The symptoms of BPD vary in different ways. Though some may be alike, not one “Borderline” is the same as another. The symptoms that someone with Borderline Personality Disorder may experience include:
Strong fear of abandonment or loneliness
Short-Temper or being easily triggered, resulting in sudden outbursts of anger or bitterness
Intense and erratic mood swings that can last anywhere from hours to days.
Volatile, stormy relationships with loved ones
Chronic sense of emptiness, uselessness
Unstable self-image, lack of confidence
Dangerous, impulsive behaviors such as self-harming behaviors, suicidal thoughts, etc.
The tendency to dissociate from reality
If you’re experiencing any of these symptoms, contact your doctor.
If you’re feeling suicidal, call the Crisis Service Canada Hotline at 1.883.456.4566
What Causes BPD?
There’s no single reason or cause for Borderline Personality Disorder. The truth is that there is a wide spectrum of factors that play into this disorder, and in some cases, it’s a concoction of multiple factors.
Much like examining symptoms, each individual's BPD is different.
For example: In one case, the cause could be childhood trauma, which is frequently reported by people diagnosed with BPD. In another case, however, the individual may not have ever experienced trauma, but their BPD is the result of brain chemistry and genetics.
Other common factors:
How the brain develops
Being abused or neglected by parents/guardians
Being raised by someone with BPD or a similar mental illness.
Abuse by a partner/spouse
When someone has Borderline Personality Disorder, it’s also quite common for them to experience other mental health issues like depression or anxiety. This makes treating Borderline a little more difficult since doctors have to treat both mental illnesses at the same time.
How Do You Treat BPD?
As is the case with all mental illness, there really is no magic cure. But, there IS hope for recovery. BPD isn’t something that necessarily goes away, but through proper treatment and a good mental wellness plan, you will be able to live a good life, even with BPD.
Your wellness plan could include:
Proper medication to ease symptoms
Seeing a psychologist regularly
Specific therapies like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
Your Wellness Plan is made by your doctors and other mental health professionals that you’ve seen. It’s a plan to get you to the best possible outcome, which is recovery from BPD.
Of course, the first step of your wellness plan is to consult your doctor and inform them if you’re experiencing any symptoms of BPD (or any health issue, really).
Here are some GREAT Resources to get your BPD Recovery/ Wellness Journey Started
Guides and Information:
1-888-4-8272-273 National Borderline Personality Disorder Resource and Referral Center (New York)
310-6789 [do not add 604, 778 or 250 before the number] CMHA BC (British Columbia)
Text 741741National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Crisis Text Line (US)
1–800–662–HELP National Institute for Mental Health
Remember, mental illness is just as serious as physical illness or injury. It requires patience and effort to recover and deserves medical attention. Whether you or someone you know is suffering from mental illness, information is the key to understanding.
It may take longer than you’d like, but wellness is worth it! Understanding is the first step to recovery. Now, you are on your way!
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Until Next Time!